When something feels off...
Aug 18, 2026Is It Still Aligned... or Have You Just Gotten Used to It?
This week's Tuesday Talks was all about something I think many women experience but rarely stop to examine: the difference between alignment and incongruence.
Sometimes life doesn't feel wrong exactly. Nothing is necessarily broken. But something feels off.
Maybe it's an activity you used to love.
Maybe it's a friendship that no longer energizes you.
Maybe it's a routine, a responsibility, or even a goal you've been pursuing for years.
You can't quite put your finger on it, but there's an "ick" feeling. A quiet sense that something no longer fits.
The problem is that we often ignore those feelings.
We convince ourselves we're being dramatic. We tell ourselves it's fine. We keep following the same patterns because they're familiar and comfortable. Our brains love efficiency, so they keep running the same programs on autopilot—even when those programs no longer serve us.
But what if that feeling isn't something to ignore?
What if it's information?
The Power of Curiosity
When something feels incongruent, the first step isn't to make a drastic change.
You don't need to quit your job, end relationships, or completely reinvent your life.
You simply need to get curious.
Ask yourself:
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What feels off here?
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Why doesn't this excite me the way it used to?
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Is this still aligned with who I am today?
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What would feel more aligned?
The goal isn't immediate action. The goal is awareness.
Sometimes the answer is a mindset shift.
Sometimes the answer is a small adjustment.
And sometimes the answer is realizing you've simply evolved beyond something that once fit perfectly.
When Did You Stop Asking What You Want?
One of the biggest themes in this week's conversation was how easily women lose touch with their own desires.
As children and young adults, we're constantly asked what we want. What do you want to be? Where do you want to live? What kind of life do you want?
Then life happens.
Careers, marriages, children, responsibilities, caregiving.
And somewhere along the way, many women stop asking themselves that question altogether.
When was the last time you genuinely asked yourself:
What do I want?
Not what everyone else needs.
Not what you should want.
Not what's practical.
What do you want?
If that question feels difficult to answer, that's okay. It simply means it's time to reconnect with yourself.
Your Brain May Resist
As you begin exploring what's aligned and what's not, don't be surprised if your brain pushes back.
It may offer thoughts like:
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It's not about you.
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You don't have time for that.
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Everyone else's needs come first.
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You couldn't have that anyway.
Those thoughts aren't facts. They're protective patterns.
Your brain prefers familiar discomfort over unfamiliar change. That's normal.
Instead of fighting those thoughts, acknowledge them and return to curiosity.
Ask:
What would feel aligned for me?
What would feel good?
Give Yourself Permission
This episode is meant to be a permission slip.
Permission to notice what no longer fits.
Permission to question old patterns.
Permission to explore possibilities without immediately committing to them.
Permission to evolve.
Because you are not supposed to stay exactly the same forever.
You are growing, changing, learning, and becoming.
And sometimes that means what once felt right no longer does.
That's not a problem.
That's part of being human.
So if something in your life feels a little off right now, don't rush to fix it.
Just get curious.
Your answers may be waiting on the other side of that curiosity.
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